I don’t blame you for feeling burned out on your workout program or you meal plan.
It’s easy to get to that place of frustration and wanting to throw in the towel, when you feel like you’re doing *all the right things* and aren’t getting any of the results. I’ve been there.
For years, I tried all the workout programs promising a bikini ready body in six weeks. Little did I know in order to have a bikini body, you literally just have to put a bikini on your body. Or I’d read diet book after diet book thinking starting a new diet would be the answer I’d been looking for. After all, nutrition is 80% of your results.
After trying and failing so many times, nobody blames you for losing belief in yourself. But maybe the problem isn’t that you lost the belief in yourself. Perhaps it was never there to begin with. This would be completely reasonable if you grew up thinking you were a failure because you had a fixed mindset. It could also be completely possible for you to not believe in yourself because that is the way mainstream fitness is designed.
If the diets and the workout programs actually worked long-term, the fitness industry would be in big trouble.
You don’t need another diet, meal plan, or workout program.
You need consistency. When we fail to reach our goals it’s usually because we aren’t consistent enough, long enough to elicit the results we want. And most of the time, the reason we suck at consistency is because of our deep-rooted beliefs–some of which you may not even be aware you have.
Your mindset is crucial in what you end up achieving. If deep down you don’t believe you can ever achieve your weight loss goal or if you associate losing weight with any sort of negative feeling, emotion, or thought you will subconsciously sabotage yourself.
It’s easier to think negative than it is to be positive. Optimism is learned and strengthened through practice much like motivation…
If you have a habit of always thinking about things in a negative light, you can change that. Whether we are naturally more pessimistic or optimistic is largely influenced by our environment. This means it can be changed. The process of changing the pattern your thoughts may not come easily, especially when we are trained to see the flaws in ourselves. But it can be done none the less.
One simple way you can start doing this is through gratitude. Start appreciating what you do have and what you have accomplished so far than what you don’t or you haven’t.
Reflect on your actions, do they line up with the goals you’ve set for yourself or not–be honest here. Then ask yourself how can you course correct. Your thoughts drive your emotions and your actions. If you want to change your actions, you must first change your thoughts.
We think it is in reaching our goals that we will be happy, but we have the opportunity to live ‘as if’ (does this remind anyone else of Clueless- or is it just me?) WAY before we reach our goals. You don’t actually want your goals. You want the feelings you believe reaching those fitness goals will bring you. Why not work on cultivating those feelings now?
The health and fitness industry wants us to believe in order to *feel* confident, attractive, and beautiful we have to look a certain way. You don’t. You can start to create those same warm and fuzzy feelings right now.
Learn how to improve your body image while reaching your fitness goals with these tips:
Remember all great things take time and a consistent effort to build. Rome wasn’t built in a day, but it was built every day. Habits are grounded in consistency and they are they key to creating long-term, lasting change whether in nutrition, fitness, or otherwise.
Start slowly and start simply. Either by replacing one habit at a time or by creating one new positive habit at a time. Instead of going all in on a meal plan, focus on changing one thing at one meal until it becomes so easy you don’t even have to think about it. If you’re not used to working out, don’t commit to 5 days of working out start with 1 and do that one day consistently until it’s a part of your life. After the new habit becomes easy and automatic you can add to it or make it more challenging. They key is to go slow.
Whatever positive habit you pick to start creating or whatever negative habit you’re committed to changing you want to ask yourself how likely you believe you are to achieving it. Pick the habit and the change in your routine, then rate it on a scale of 1-10 how likely it will be to be consistent in working on it. Anything lower than an 8/9 needs to be made easier.
When you do fail or fall down, don’t waste your time or energy beating yourself up. Self-condemnation doesn’t motivate us to work harder or to persevere. It usually has the opposite effect. Get in the habit of giving yourself grace and pep talks. When a baby is learning to walk and they stumble we don’t make fun of them or call them names for falling. We encourage them to get up and try again. Practice that same kind of grace and compassion for yourself too.
Harness the power of your thoughts through visualization.
Often times by thinking about all the ways something could go wrong, we end up creating that exact reality with our minds. If you think you’re going to fail at your new workout program or you think you’ll only stick with your nutrition habits for a few days, then you will. Likewise, you can begin creating a new reality for yourself by visualizing different outcomes.
- Know what you want and why: make sure you are chasing goals that line up with your values. Get a clear picture in your mind of what you want, how you believe it will make you feel to have that, and why you want it. Ask yourself: if you had no limits on what you could have, be, or do what would you have, be, and do?
- Create a detailed image: this is where vision boards or Pinterest come in handy. Find images of the life you want to be living and put it somewhere you will see it often. If you could wave a magic wand, what would your life look like?
- Start visualizing and create the feelings now: start to actually visualize your dream life as if. What are the smells, sounds, sights. Tap into the emotions and the feelings you believe reaching those goals will bring you. Practice creating your dream life now in your mind.
- Take action every day: You won’t get where you want to be in a day, week, or even a month–most likely it will take time…and consistent action. Settle in for the journey and commit to showing up each and every day. What action can you commit to taking daily, weekly to move you closer to your health and fitness goals?
- Learn how to have grit and perseverance: Challenges will arise along the way. Give yourself the upper hand by preparing for them in advance with a little extra planning. Practice overcoming the obstacles beforehand through visualization. See yourself successfully overcoming the challenges ahead of time, so that when they do come, you’re already confident and prepared to handle them like a boss.
You have what it takes to reach your goals, whatever they are and I believe in you. It’s time for you to believe in you too. Learn to see the world through a more optimistic lens by practicing positive thinking. Give yourself grace and compassion when you stumble just like you would someone you love. And get in the habit of seeing yourself succeed.
Don’t wait to put this to work for you. Your mindset about yourself, fitness, and health is just as important as eating vegetables and exercising. Take the time to get your mind right, otherwise all the hard work you put in to reaching your goals will be in vain.
If you need a little help getting started, grab the PDF I created to get you started.
Cheers to creating food freedom, finding joy in movement, and making peace with your body long before you reach your goals!
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