4 out of 5 women are unhappy with the way they look in some way. 75% have or currently engage in disordered eating behaviors.

In the sororities I’ve spoken at that stat is more like 💯. When I ask by show of hands who had at least one thing they wanted to change about their body every.single.hand goes up.

As we begin to unpack the idea of body dissatisfaction and how it impacts our self esteem and confidence one theme keeps coming up: Comparison.

The trouble with comparison is we are usually comparing oranges to apples.

Often we are comparing our natural, unfiltered bodies to airbrushed and filtered images. There’s no way our imperfect and flawed bodies could ever compete and win against images that have been retouched and doctored up to give the false illusion that perfection exists.

Looking at what you don’t have or who you’re not is a recipe for disaster. And comparing yourself to others will only ever leave you feeling empty and not good enough.

Especially when you’re comparing yourself to airbrushed and filtered images.

The irony is we think if we were:
Shorter
Taller
Thicker
Thinner
Lighter
Darker

We’d be able to be content with ourselves.

But even at 9% body fat I was still comparing and still not feeling good enough.

I’m so much more confident in this body now than I ever was at 111 pounds and shredded.

You can be confident right now without ever shedding a pound. But that work has to start inside.

It truly is a state of mind. Be kind to yourself and treat your body with love. It’s the only one you’ve got 🖤

What makes you feel confident today?

Embrace your imperfections and hold onto what gives you confidence. Ditch the pressure to conform to an unachievable idea of what your body should look like. ✌🏼