I realize it’s been a while since you’ve heard from me, and I’m sorry for the absence. The past several weeks have been nothing short of a thrilling roller coaster ride to say the least. There had been a stirring in my heart for several months and I finally decided to take the leap and make some changes. No matter how seasoned you are at any one area of your life anytime you start to make changes old feelings, thoughts, and habits start to come back to the surface or completely new thoughts start to show up.
Change is great at making you see the areas of yourself/ your life that need some improvement. It can be so scary and so overwhelming, but it can also be so exciting and so refreshing if you let it. Every new level you climb to will bring out new devils to deal with, but be encouraged–you can and you will do it. Because you realize that the change is needed and is long over do. So, here are some of the things that have been happening since I last checked in:
-Launched a brand new website (check it out and let me know what you think). This one is huge for me! I am so tickled with how well it turned out, and I really feel like it captures the essence of who I am, what I do, and how I want to serve others.
-Created and am launching my first coaching program, Ditch the Diet Mindset and Rewrite your Food Story. This was a labor of love for sure and I am so happy with the final product. I cannot wait to get it into the hands of the women that have been craving something like this. No calorie counting, no food obsession, no bingeing, no restriction.
-Went back to my roots with my own nutrition. As someone that has spent years dealing with the issues around food mentioned above this feels really dang good. I let myself slip back into some old habits and patterns that were not serving me well. So to be in this place of grace and freedom around food again is precisely what I had been missing.
– Learning each day to balance between being wife, mom, coach, and entrepreneur. This is always in change. Each day, each season requires something new. Sometimes the learning curve feels too steep, but I have faith. I know that no matter what I can get done in a day, it’s enough. I hope you hear that. I hope that becomes a truth for you as well. It’s all about grace, my friend!
Despite all that is happening, all that has yet to happen, all the unknown, and uncertainty there is peace amidst the chaos. There is nothing quite like that peace of mind.
I’d love to hear what is new in your world! Drop me a comment and let me know what changes are on the horizon for you in this next season. How can I come along side you as you walk through this change? It’s better when we do it together!
Until next time, friend!
Confidence at times can seem like a mystical unicorn. Sometimes we see little glimmers and specks of it here or there, like when we are having a good hair day or our jeans slid over our hips without any resistance. Other days however, not so much. No matter what you put on or how you try to fix your hair, you still can’t muster up even the slightest bit of confidence. I’ve been there and have had those days.
While it might feel good in the moment when everything goes as planned, it feels just as awful when it all goes south. That is why it is so important to build an unshakeable foundation of confidence. We aren’t going to do this through more exercise, makeup, or hair product, but rather by using strategies to help us build our confidence from the inside out. On solid rock rather than sinking sand.
Today I wanted to share one super simple and super effective strategy that has really shifted focus from all that I am not doing, to what I am actually doing pretty well. You may already be in the habit of journaling, and that is great! One quick question though, do you regularly journal and record your daily wins?
I wasn’t. At least not until a few months ago. I got so tired of looking at my to-do list that never seemed to be satisfied or all of the projects I wanted to start (and someday finish) for my business. There was this constant feeling of defeat each day as I lay my head down at night. I felt as if summiting the mountaintop was an impossible feat. And while we should always be striving (in a healthy way of course) for that next level, we ought also take the time to enjoy the journey.
One easy way to do that is by recording what you are already doing. In some ways this is just an extension of practicing gratitude, and it helps you see that you are winning each and every day. Some days the wins might feel small or foolish and other days they might feel like you just slayed a giant. Either way, it is worth celebrating!
So tonight, grab a journal and jot down the first three things that come to mind as something that you accomplished or just got done. Be proud and be appreciative. This will boost your confidence immediately and will give you some inspiration to get at it again in the morning.
I’d love to hear how this works for you, leave a comment below with some of you wins!
Until next time 🙂
“Nothing can dim the light that shines from within”
Nothing that is unless you let it. Don’t be so quick to give your power away. The light may be merely a flicker at the moment, but continue to feed that fire until it becomes an all consuming flame.
One song comes to mind when I hear this quote…this little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine. What ever happened to that confidence? Hide it under a bushel, NO! I’m going to let it shine. You were made to shine too. Don’t let anybody or anything talk you into hiding it.
That yearning for something more is put there for a reason. Don’t ignore the call on your heart. Feed the flame and one day it will be the burning fire you desire it to be.
It is hard to do this on your own though, isn’t it? That is why having community is SO important. If you are looking for that community, for that tribe, then look no more. We’ve got you covered. Search Find your T.H.R.I.V.E on FB and join the other women on this journey with you.
Too late for a #throwback?
I was 26 and probably about 15 pounds lighter in the picture on the left.
I was also exhausted from being a mom of two young kids and felt drained all the time.
I was trying so hard to be the perfect mom and wife and was honestly miserable in so many ways.
I was putting everyone first and chasing the wrong things.
I would make the excuse that I didn’t have time to take care of what mattered, because I had let busy take over, and tried to keep up certain appearances.
This is the side of motherhood that is rarely, if ever talked about because motherhood is supposed to be one of the best times of our lives as women.. my heart is racing even as I type my feelings so openly. There were days I thought about running away and leaving them all behind.
Looking back, maybe I was suffering from a little #postpartumdepression, bit more than that I think I was suffering from putting so much pressure on doing it ‘right’.
Fast forward 7 years.
I see life and vibrancy and passion in her eyes.
I see a woman who has completely embraced motherhood in all of its messiness and a wife that has endured a great deal of heartache over the last 11 years. But she is filled with joy. She is content. And she is confidently laughing at whatever the future may hold.
If you’re still reading this, I hope you know you’re not alone. Motherhood is messy. Being a wife takes a lot of work and a lot of sacrifice.
I’ve heard you can’t have it all…I’m starting to think that’s a lie. If you ever feel alone, know that you are not. My inbox is always open
Gratitude changes everything…
Have you noticed that the practice of giving thanks is every where right now? And for good reason. Taking inventory of what is good in our lives can give us hope and can encourage us to carry on even when we are weary and feel like we are stuck in a hopeless situation.
The Bible talks so much about giving thanks and counting your blessings. There is a reason for that. It points out that even in the most desperate situations there are specks of hope, light, and good. And that God, in His faithfulness will work all things for the good of those that love him and are called according to his purpose -Romans 8:28
That means that even when you can’t see how He is working, you can trust that He still is. And giving thanks is one way to keep your mind steadfast and free from the distraction of what may not be working so well in the moment.
How can you cultivate an attitude of gratitude or a state of being grateful regardless of your circumstances?
Start a gratitude journal. Head to Target or TJ Maxx or any other cute shop that sells journals and pick one that elicits a feeling of gratitude. Then start by journaling at least 3 things you are thankful for each and every day. It could be something simple like having a hot cup of coffee by yourself in the morning, or perhaps something bigger has happened that is worth noting. By journaling, you will be able to look back and see how God has always provided, and you can use it in times of trial to spur you on in your race.
…be determined and confident! Do not be afraid or discouraged..
The other day I woke up, clicked my Bible app open and this was the verse that was there waiting for me. It was just what I needed that day as I was battling some pretty toxic anxiety and fear that has in the past kept me from taking action.
It is crazy to me how each and every day, there is always just what my heart needs waiting for me in my bible.
“Remember that I have commanded you to be determined and confident! Do not be afraid or discouraged, for I, the LORD your God, am with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9 GNT
No matter what you face today, remember you have been commanded to be determined and confident. You are never alone, and everything you need to face the day is ready and waiting for you.
I hope this encouraged your and strengthened your heart today, my friend…