In our culture today discipline to the point of obsession, insanity, or extreme is glorified and celebrated.
But what happens when all of that focus weighs us down, distracts, and discourages us? Is there another way we can set fitness goals without going crazy over the number we see on the scale?
For many, ambitious mom bosses, they see themselves as weak or lazy if they aren’t fit, running a successful business, and leading the charge on the PTA–because we often have such high expectations for ourselves and we have so much passion. We can easily get caught up in perfectionism and comparison…which is the exact opposite of self love.
When our tummies look fat or softer than we think they should, we start to obsess. Think about starting a new diet that promises bikini body ready results in 6 weeks. For many of us, we have been taught that being overweight or not looking a certain way made us worthless.
I’m here to remind you that life is more than food, clothes, or what our bodies look like. You were created with a very special and unique purpose in mind, and the good news is, you don’t have to be a certain size or shape to make that happen.
You do however, need to let go of the guilt, shame, and unhealthy mindsets that are keeping you stuck in this toxic cycle.
If you’re tired of setting fitness goals related to weight loss and fat loss, and want to start setting fitness goal to make you feel strong and empowered, you’re in the right place.
Don’t get me wrong, listening to your body and honoring your hunger + fullness cues is critical to your non-diet lifestyle…
but unfortunately many well meaning coaches teaching on intuitive eating and the anti-diet culture movement fail to teach you how to listen to your body in the first place.
If you have been dieting (whether you knew it or not) it can be extremely hard to know what your body is saying especially when it seems to just be shouting you want another brownie (insert eye roll). And the more obsessive (often seen as extreme discipline and healthy eating) the harder it can be to discern what exactly your body needs and whether or not you can even trust it.
Let’s face it, we are not taught to trust our bodies. We are not taught to enjoy indulgent foods. And we are not taught that you can be healthy without watching what you eat, tracking your food in some way, or focusing on weight loss/ fat loss.
In today’s episode I am walking you through some of the baby steps that will help you learn how to listen to your body helping you become a more mindful and intuitive eater.
Learning how to know when you’re hungry, when you’re full, and what kinds of foods your body *might* actually be needing from moment to moment is a nuanced practice that takes time, patience, and a lot of grace.
So grab your favorite beverage or head out for a walk, hit play, and learn how you can trust your body around food one bite at a time.
If you are looking to dive a bit deeper into the world of intuitive eating with a mindful approach, I have a 30 Day Kit that walks you through the foundational skills in daily bite sized bits. You can get that here: https://alishacarlson.com/tmep30daykit/ (did I mention you can get this for less than a $1 a day?!)
PPS. If you know you want to get started on this journey, but not sure you can do it alone, you fill out the form here, and let’s talk!
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Bad habits, we all have them in various forms. Some are more obvious than others, yet they all in some way trip us up and keep us from being the strong, fierce, and beautiful women we were created to be. This weeks’ show talks about why you need to break your bad habits around food, exercise, and your mindset now so you can be more fully the woman you were created to be.
Whether they are bad behaviors you picked up around food, exercise, or your thoughts, you can break them and replace them with better habits more aligned with your goals.
In today’s show, I share with you how pruning my lavender taught me some pretty valuable lessons about pruning bad habits from my life and letting dead things go.
What do you need to prune in your life? What bad habits need to die? What are you willing to let go of so you can grab hold of what you were created for?
Pruning is a painful process and sometimes we even have to let go of the “good” things so we can grab hold of the best things.
Even if you’re not into gardening, you will get so much value from today’s show!
Do you find yourself quietly comparing what you look like to other women?
Whether it’s us judging ourselves against people we know or not, comparison is a no-win game. And usually leaves us struggling with negative body image issues and anxiety.
This is especially true if we are comparing ourselves to photoshopped and filtered images on Instagram or other social media outlets.
If we aren’t careful, those negative feelings can take over our lives. It’s all we think about, and end up obsessing over how to ‘fix’ our bodies to fit more with what the current ideal body standard is of the moment.
Needless to say, spending so much time and energy comparing what we think we look like against how others look is a waste of our precious time.
What you might not know is that those negative feelings you have about yourself are all inside your head.
Our feelings are generated by the stories we tell ourselves over and over again.
This means though, you can change how you feel about your body without ever changing it by simply changing the story you are telling yourself about how you look.
The first step is to neutralize negative thoughts, and that is exactly what I share with you in this week’s episode! Grab your favorite drink, hit play, and get ready to change those toxic thoughts.
4 out of 5 women are unhappy with the way they look in some way. 75% have or currently engage in disordered eating behaviors.
In the sororities I’ve spoken at that stat is more like 💯. When I ask by show of hands who had at least one thing they wanted to change about their body every.single.hand goes up.
As we begin to unpack the idea of body dissatisfaction and how it impacts our self esteem and confidence one theme keeps coming up: Comparison.
The trouble with comparison is we are usually comparing oranges to apples.
Often we are comparing our natural, unfiltered bodies to airbrushed and filtered images. There’s no way our imperfect and flawed bodies could ever compete and win against images that have been retouched and doctored up to give the false illusion that perfection exists.
Looking at what you don’t have or who you’re not is a recipe for disaster. And comparing yourself to others will only ever leave you feeling empty and not good enough.
Especially when you’re comparing yourself to airbrushed and filtered images.
The irony is we think if we were: Shorter Taller Thicker Thinner Lighter Darker
We’d be able to be content with ourselves.
But even at 9% body fat I was still comparing and still not feeling good enough.
I’m so much more confident in this body now than I ever was at 111 pounds and shredded.
You can be confident right now without ever shedding a pound. But that work has to start inside.
It truly is a state of mind. Be kind to yourself and treat your body with love. It’s the only one you’ve got 🖤
What makes you feel confident today?
Embrace your imperfections and hold onto what gives you confidence. Ditch the pressure to conform to an unachievable idea of what your body should look like. ✌🏼