I’d roll out of bed 15-20 min before I had to be up. My kids have always been into early mornings. It was always mad dash to get everyone out the door on time. No wonder I was crabby, exhausted, and spent the rest of the day trying to catch my breath.
What if your day didn’t have to start like that? Wouldn’t it be great if you could enjoy a hot cup of coffee and a little time to get your head in the game before everyone else was up, and the world was knocking at your door?
You can start your day fresh, with more peace, and a lot more calm. The trick is to carve out time for yourself before the busy of the day sets in. But this, like any other habit takes some practice.
Let me guess, at this point you might be thinking to yourself, this is great for the early birds. Perhaps you already feel like you don’t have enough time, let alone add one more thing to your list.
Here’s the magic: Once you develop the habit, you won’t have to think about it. In fact, you’ll be so stoked on how you’re feeling after spending some time filling your cup, you’ll be too excited to get up and get the day going.
I think one of the reasons, people aren’t more excited to get up and at ’em is because the day is too chaotic. If my days felt like that, I wouldn’t be too happy to get out of bed either. In fact, I wasn’t.
When I’d roll out of bed, I was immediately reacting to life, instead of calling the shots. And if you’re not setting some intention behind your morning routine, then you’re likely in the same boat I was.
Another thing that may be tripping you up are some of the other habits you’ve got, that you’re not ready to get rid of just yet…like late night Netflix binges or hours of mindless scrolling.
I had some habits that definitely had to go, if I was going to be able to get my butt out of bed earlier. While I thought watching hours of TV or scrolling my social media was recharging my battery, I noticed I didn’t always feel better or more refreshed.
Often, I’d wake up the next day feeling drained and exhausted.
On the rare occasion I would get out of bed earlier than usual, I found I had so much more time to get ready.
The days I had actually taken the time to read my bible, journal, spend time praying or meditating I had a different head space.
You might be on board to give this whole morning thing a try, but not sure where to start. It’s ok, I didn’t either.
I read the book Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod as a recommendation from a friend of mine at the time.
The book helped give my mornings structure. I used it as inspiration, and just kept tweaking until I found what worked for me and the time I had.
My mornings these days consist of going through my daily devotional, read a personal development book for about 10-15 min, journal some thoughts that came up or things I’m wrestling with, meditation/ prayer, and then I visualize my ideal day.
Here’s the thing to realize though, having a great morning starts the night before. Not only is it important to look at how you’re starting your day, but also how you’re winding down the night before.
If you’re finding it hard to get up a bit earlier, you may wanna take a look at your bedtime routine, and make some tweaks there.
Remember, it’s not about massive overhaul here. Instead, look at what small change you’re willing to make. And then intentionally practice it…daily. You also don’t have to wake up hours earlier. Try waking up 10-15 minutes earlier at first, then you can bump it back as needed.
As we know perfect doesn’t exist–this goes for our sleep as well. There are days when you may do everything ‘right’, and still don’t sleep well. This can make getting up early much more challenging than it might already be. Just do what you can. Maybe you cut a few things out, or shorten the routine up a bit. That’s ok! Just do what you can.
Any time I travel, or have a change in routine it can be hard to stay with my morning routine. Again, decide what you can do even when you’re short on time or out of your element and do that. Think about it like this, what would the minimum be that you could do to still feel energized and excited about your day be? Do that. Then when you get back into your groove, you can adjust again.
I never thought changing one little thing, like how I start my mornings would have had such a profound impact, but it has. I don’t feel like I’m running the whole day trying to find my groove because I create my groove first thing in the am.
You will feel like you’ve found extra time in your day, and it’s because you have.
If you constantly feel like you don’t have enough time, it can be tempting to avoid adding one more thing in, but I just want you to try it. If you don’t like it, you can always go back to sleeping in 😉
Starting day with intention makes it easier to be intentional throughout the day. Keep in mind freedom comes from having structure without being harsh or rigid. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t do it perfectly or you miss a day here or there. However, to create new habits, you have to commit to consistency.
Make it easy on yourself to win the day, by winning your mornings.
The big wins come from small daily actions. Fact–it’s the small and often insignificant actions that create our lives.
I remember thinking my weight loss journey would be one where something massive would happen and the weight would just fall off. In fact, I believe that is why I had such a hard time getting in shape when I first started.
My expectations and reality did not align at all. I don’t blame myself, and I don’t blame you if you think you’ll arrive in your fit n’ healthy body overnight or 6 weeks from now. That is after all what the health and fitness industry sells.
Hard work isn’t sexy, and it doesn’t sell. But the reality is, it’s the only thing that will ever work long term.
Why then do we keep going back to those silly quick fixes and false promises? Because it’s what we know. Because we want to believe that the next diet or workout program will be just the ticket.
However, in order to actually make your fit n’ healthy lifestyle a true lifestyle it’s got to be something you can do forever, and it’s got to be built on habits and routines. Not rules and restriction, guilt or shame.
And one of the best ways to create healthy habits is by tracking your consistency. I know, that sucks. And it’s the least cool thing you can probably think of when it comes to crushing your health goals this year or any year.
If you can track it, you can smash it.
One of the best ways to see how consistent you are is by tracking your daily habits + actions. Not only does it help you crush your fitness goals, but in my experience it has boosted my confidence. When I am showing up, that is.
For some tracking (much like accountability) can feel negative though. Like it’s restrictive and they want to rebel. For others it makes them feel empowered and strong.
Keeping track of your actions can boost or steal your confidence, but it all depends on how you look at it. Do you see being held accountable to your actions as being a punishment or a way to see just how much of a failure you are? OR do you see keeping track as a way to keep yourself honest?
The reality is, we think we do more than we actually do. Tracking is one way to help you close the gap between what you think and what you do.
You can only control two things: your effort and your attitude. Implementing a simple goal tracking system will help you see the effort you’re putting towards your fitness goals.
I want you to hear this: you can STILL make great strides if you hit even just 65%.
Yes, you read that right. In school, 65% is failing. We are taught from early on that you start with 100% and for every mistake you make, you lose points, percentages, and slip towards failure.
What if, we looked at it from the other way? What if you actually start at 0? This would mean that EVERYTHING you do moves you closer to your goals. When you look at it this way, then 65% is almost to 100. Pretty cool eh?
Create a tracking system, and do it.
You’ve got to figure out what works for you..just like everything else in life. Whether you go with paper and pen, a digital tracking tool–you decide, then do it.
This isn’t about doing it perfectly. It never is. Keeping track of your actions like days you moved or servings of veggies you ate for the day are just one tool to help you create new habits. It takes practice to get into the habit of tracking even. So when you’re first starting out, set an alarm or alert on your phone to remind you to check in with yourself. In fact, setting reminders can help you in so many ways in creating new, healthy habits.
Don’t look at tracking as a bad thing. Remember YOU are not bad if your score isn’t quite what you want. It’s just information. You get to assign the meaning to your score, and YOU get to be the one that does something if you aren’t happy with your effort.
Confidence at times can seem like a mystical unicorn. Sometimes we see little glimmers and specks of it here or there, like when we are having a good hair day or our jeans slid over our hips without any resistance. Other days however, not so much. No matter what you put on or how you try to fix your hair, you still can’t muster up even the slightest bit of confidence. I’ve been there and have had those days.
While it might feel good in the moment when everything goes as planned, it feels just as awful when it all goes south. That is why it is so important to build an unshakeable foundation of confidence. We aren’t going to do this through more exercise, makeup, or hair product, but rather by using strategies to help us build our confidence from the inside out. On solid rock rather than sinking sand.
Today I wanted to share one super simple and super effective strategy that has really shifted focus from all that I am not doing, to what I am actually doing pretty well. You may already be in the habit of journaling, and that is great! One quick question though, do you regularly journal and record your daily wins?
I wasn’t. At least not until a few months ago. I got so tired of looking at my to-do list that never seemed to be satisfied or all of the projects I wanted to start (and someday finish) for my business. There was this constant feeling of defeat each day as I lay my head down at night. I felt as if summiting the mountaintop was an impossible feat. And while we should always be striving (in a healthy way of course) for that next level, we ought also take the time to enjoy the journey.
One easy way to do that is by recording what you are already doing. In some ways this is just an extension of practicing gratitude, and it helps you see that you are winning each and every day. Some days the wins might feel small or foolish and other days they might feel like you just slayed a giant. Either way, it is worth celebrating!
So tonight, grab a journal and jot down the first three things that come to mind as something that you accomplished or just got done. Be proud and be appreciative. This will boost your confidence immediately and will give you some inspiration to get at it again in the morning.
I’d love to hear how this works for you, leave a comment below with some of you wins!
I was 26 and probably about 15 pounds lighter in the picture on the left.
I was also exhausted from being a mom of two young kids and felt drained all the time.
I was trying so hard to be the perfect mom and wife and was honestly miserable in so many ways.
I was putting everyone first and chasing the wrong things.
I would make the excuse that I didn’t have time to take care of what mattered, because I had let busy take over, and tried to keep up certain appearances.
This is the side of motherhood that is rarely, if ever talked about because motherhood is supposed to be one of the best times of our lives as women.. my heart is racing even as I type my feelings so openly. There were days I thought about running away and leaving them all behind.
Looking back, maybe I was suffering from a little #postpartumdepression, bit more than that I think I was suffering from putting so much pressure on doing it ‘right’.
Fast forward 7 years.
I see life and vibrancy and passion in her eyes.
I see a woman who has completely embraced motherhood in all of its messiness and a wife that has endured a great deal of heartache over the last 11 years. But she is filled with joy. She is content. And she is confidently laughing at whatever the future may hold.
If you’re still reading this, I hope you know you’re not alone. Motherhood is messy. Being a wife takes a lot of work and a lot of sacrifice.
I’ve heard you can’t have it all…I’m starting to think that’s a lie. If you ever feel alone, know that you are not. My inbox is always open
…be determined and confident! Do not be afraid or discouraged..
The other day I woke up, clicked my Bible app open and this was the verse that was there waiting for me. It was just what I needed that day as I was battling some pretty toxic anxiety and fear that has in the past kept me from taking action.
It is crazy to me how each and every day, there is always just what my heart needs waiting for me in my bible.
“Remember that I have commanded you to be determined and confident! Do not be afraid or discouraged, for I, the LORD your God, am with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9 GNT
No matter what you face today, remember you have been commanded to be determined and confident. You are never alone, and everything you need to face the day is ready and waiting for you.
I hope this encouraged your and strengthened your heart today, my friend…